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I have this radical idea that your life shouldn’t be spent searching for your purpose – it should be spent living it. I help people discover their top 5 values and build a life that aligns with those 5 things that they deeply care about. If this sounds good to you, you’re in the right place. https://www.tomillama.com/step-one daily 0.75 2022-05-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582710120-8KVKOTMXDJRQRG8XGBJY/llama+wagging+tail.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778431-DYTEIOK6SZ2TKX9W6RJ7/blog-section-5.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582776017-XW0XDHBSJF3FQLMNDOAV/llama+hearts+eyes.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582795504-0VFHJEW47IZ3S9DK3NM0/llama+winking.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778435-3FCOPMLWIB67OGV9V3AP/blog-section-11.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778441-KM0XW9AN90BB7SDACUCB/blog-section-12.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648584737786-Q81XJA6S72LM77LXPDSW/tomi+circle.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648602700578-AQ1Y79MZ3J31OYCISBWY/values+card+1.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648602716493-MK34HQ7UBNF1E9Y974DR/values+card+2.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648602731331-Q7VFVHJ3D36R5BYT35LN/values+card+3.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648602746808-O25BDQWC8LC315BA7Q3S/values+card+4.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648602761137-F1SVLULQ72YQTBUHL12S/values+card+5.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648605643383-2JHJ27KHREXKJQYC3VNZ/look+for+similarities+graphic.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648606782381-S7JTW2X9LO4L74CVQ96W/ask+others+what+they+think.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648607191309-5L76JB9H046GVBGYED2L/catalyst.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648608016606-Q86QMS6RVBGSD28Y8PCV/what+makes+you+angry+flipped.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650392874607-LP6650JKO74RB2TJ77KU/tomi+llama+circle+llama+and+flip+cards.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/421ab009-d191-44d5-864d-09f7ed55c27c/EMOJI+IDEA.png Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778543-3J7NDQPOEPAXZI93I7IZ/Importance+of+Values.jpg Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF Finding your values lets you find yourself! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532700525-TJ1VXDUH5W2XAVO7NSMW/tomi-llama-gradient-3.jpg Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF “Every one of us has inherent qualities that anchor us in the world and enable us to shine. To live in that way, we must clarify our own values and understand those of others. It’s one thing to be alive. It’s something else altogether to live – and work – according to who you are deep down.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/e3b37ddb-fc93-45a4-8374-efdcaeefe5ae/tomi-llama-gradient-1.jpg Step One: YOUR TRUE SELF “Psychologists have long known that most people can keep in mind somewhere between three and seven elements. But seven is a lot of values to juggle, and the more values you include, the more likely you are able to lose focus. Three is simple and tight. Six is less so. As you go beyond ten, you enter a murky terrain where different followers will choose to highlight different items—and the list starts to exist more on paper than in anyone’s mind and heart.” https://www.tomillama.com/step-two daily 0.75 2022-05-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582776017-XW0XDHBSJF3FQLMNDOAV/llama+hearts+eyes.png Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778431-DYTEIOK6SZ2TKX9W6RJ7/blog-section-5.png Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582795504-0VFHJEW47IZ3S9DK3NM0/llama+winking.png Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778441-KM0XW9AN90BB7SDACUCB/blog-section-12.png Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648584737786-Q81XJA6S72LM77LXPDSW/tomi+circle.png Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650393740247-TZ1R1Z2HJ35N7JSK6UX7/whats+your+superpower+autolayout+image.png Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912912692-XJMHJLKNS36Y5RY4P12A/step+2+card+1.jpg Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912926533-40AVSX1O1WOBOS785K03/step+2+card+2.jpg Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912945841-JE64Q2K497RTOZ11T6TF/step+2+card+3.jpg Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912973685-DZ58H14Z66LW6963I542/step+2+card+4.jpg Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912966418-BO2JJP3ZBRGELPN4Y525/step+2+card+5.jpg Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1dc38ff2-cf50-4f35-8003-fe0af9a729c4/tomi+llama+circle+llama+and+flip+cards.png Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/f3d8673b-8219-451d-97b8-b099e625f6d2/TOMI+FULL+BODY+small.png Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/6b02bc07-84a2-4e33-b854-0786c61f5dae/nc+beach+portrait.jpg Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/61e6abb8-0451-4109-a21e-7c691e162ce3/man+driving+car+from+backseat.jpg Step Two: YOUR VALUES IMPACT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.tomillama.com/faqs daily 0.75 2024-09-16 https://www.tomillama.com/step-three daily 0.75 2022-05-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778441-KM0XW9AN90BB7SDACUCB/blog-section-12.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648584737786-Q81XJA6S72LM77LXPDSW/tomi+circle.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582795504-0VFHJEW47IZ3S9DK3NM0/llama+winking.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582710120-8KVKOTMXDJRQRG8XGBJY/llama+wagging+tail.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914611375-V5XRZS814L8KAXRD6FKD/image-asset.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694644871-IC85FNH781UNZSZEGHDR/Aro+Ha_0428.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778611-827STBW679L31GWEAY7T/creampeach.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650920710414-PIFN0KJIB3HL6XBY8VR9/step+2+card+1.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650920724340-R5RKYUKNNWDXUNOPQAVH/step+2+card+2.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650920739957-MK9SY3YQV1XWYAJ6XFIJ/step+2+card+3.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/f3d8673b-8219-451d-97b8-b099e625f6d2/TOMI+FULL+BODY+small.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/ad5da9f3-9a68-4a25-9d7c-5924df24cc43/haute-stock-photography-opt-in-freebie-19.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/9603fa17-c408-4ede-b4c2-27cf7b195584/fence+post+bright.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532741082-W2G1KHBTG2F97EEDG627/Set+Boundaries+For+Success.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/899703dc-964f-4f40-bbae-9a3fe73e3d1c/scrabble+real+is+rare.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1a8da4f2-2ae2-4314-bcfa-7b2aa167f1b3/step+three+punctuality.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out If you value punctuality, then being on a team with someone who is habitually late is setting yourself up for crossed boundaries. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/aee08a49-9dff-4c89-86fb-fa9004508eab/step+three+financial.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out If you value financial well-being, then dating a big spender is setting yourself up for crossed boundaries. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/36c1213e-99eb-4a57-8235-629b02fa3874/step+3+working+together.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out If you value cooperation, then being best friends with someone who is selfish is setting yourself up for crossed boundaries. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/7edf93fe-184e-4bf5-b037-6de5d0afab30/road+diverging+rural.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/bc1ebe69-3082-4cf4-bb62-a10a0d699fb1/Screen+Shot+2022-04-27+at+3.57.13+PM.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE “I appreciate who you are and what you do. For me, I value honesty. It doesn’t feel like honesty is mutually valued in this relationship, and, without that, I have to say no to the friendship because it is important to me to say yes to friends with similar values.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778611-827STBW679L31GWEAY7T/creampeach.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE “I am learning new things about myself. One of those things is about my own personal boundaries. While in the past I might have tolerated you not telling me the truth, going forward I need you to be honest with me. As part of learning these new things about myself, I have realized dishonesty doesn't work for me. If that isn’t going to work for you, let me know, and we can think about what our relationship looks like going forward.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/aaa69364-d068-4774-ab7b-bdc83b49e63a/collaboration.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/896b3ec4-096c-4c0d-8496-631757ac4865/compassionate+friend+conversation+327kb.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/bc1ebe69-3082-4cf4-bb62-a10a0d699fb1/Screen+Shot+2022-04-27+at+3.57.13+PM.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE “I want our partnership to be as successful and fulfilling as possible. What I need in this relationship for us to be successful is clear communication, and I feel like that hasn’t been happening lately and it makes me sad. How do you feel like we can move forward from here so that we are as successful as possible? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/63488357-d973-4d17-b40a-88172616f656/compassionate+work+conversation.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/bc1ebe69-3082-4cf4-bb62-a10a0d699fb1/Screen+Shot+2022-04-27+at+3.57.13+PM.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE “Hello team/co-workers, I value what you do. I want us to be as successful as possible. One thing that I need to be successful is clear communication. I feel like lately I have not been receiving clear communication about our project and it has been difficult for me to perform at my highest level. How can we solve this challenge together?” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/bc1ebe69-3082-4cf4-bb62-a10a0d699fb1/Screen+Shot+2022-04-27+at+3.57.13+PM.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE “You are always trying to take advantage of the rules. You are only concerned with getting ahead for yourself!” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/bc1ebe69-3082-4cf4-bb62-a10a0d699fb1/Screen+Shot+2022-04-27+at+3.57.13+PM.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE “I value integrity and doing things the right way. It makes me feel upset when you do things like cut corners to save time and money. I want us to have a successful and healthy relationship and a partner who I can trust to do the right thing. How do we manage this tension in our relationship going forward?” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1651158787607-SZOT0GPRR5U4UJT7HL8W/Screen+Shot+2022-04-28+at+11.12.57+AM.png Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE “I would like to circle back on our conversation from two days ago. It didn’t go the way I planned so I would like a do-over. And if I could go back in time and do it differently, here is what I would say… “ https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/4d94c0c1-0f78-41d5-9dfd-8802fb41c01c/mountain+scenic+drive+large.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/b4eff4b4-46bd-4a07-80a8-7499f523c94c/african+american+couple+snuggling+with+coffee.jpg Step Three: CREATE YOUR HAPPY SPACE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.tomillama.com/step-six daily 0.75 2022-05-12 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914611375-V5XRZS814L8KAXRD6FKD/image-asset.png Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582710120-8KVKOTMXDJRQRG8XGBJY/llama+wagging+tail.png Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582795504-0VFHJEW47IZ3S9DK3NM0/llama+winking.png Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778441-KM0XW9AN90BB7SDACUCB/blog-section-12.png Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648584737786-Q81XJA6S72LM77LXPDSW/tomi+circle.png Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694644871-IC85FNH781UNZSZEGHDR/Aro+Ha_0428.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914615533-EYXA07NNNQTN4SXT2LRX/image-asset.png Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914615533-EYXA07NNNQTN4SXT2LRX/image-asset.png Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912912692-XJMHJLKNS36Y5RY4P12A/step+2+card+1.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912926533-40AVSX1O1WOBOS785K03/step+2+card+2.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912945841-JE64Q2K497RTOZ11T6TF/step+2+card+3.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912973685-DZ58H14Z66LW6963I542/step+2+card+4.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694644871-IC85FNH781UNZSZEGHDR/Aro+Ha_0428.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1589847767761-J2M1HI20BXRQ9XCR0HUD/Large+JPG-Aro+Ha_0387.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914609399-0GZ63DEUVL5AYRG5TQ8J/image-asset.jpeg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694644871-IC85FNH781UNZSZEGHDR/Aro+Ha_0428.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1589847767761-J2M1HI20BXRQ9XCR0HUD/Large+JPG-Aro+Ha_0387.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694644871-IC85FNH781UNZSZEGHDR/Aro+Ha_0428.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1589847767761-J2M1HI20BXRQ9XCR0HUD/Large+JPG-Aro+Ha_0387.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532753553-L24EUI0KQ921P1OJCV56/joy-llama-emoji2.png Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/cd894835-65df-420c-b1a3-0c71cbf8a9ee/tomi-llama-gradient-4.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT “One of life’s hardest lessons to learn is that you can only change yourself. Some people spend inordinate amounts of time and energy upset, angry, or frustrated by other people’s thoughts and behaviors. But to what end? You can rail against the rain or feel sanguine about the snow, but there’s not a whole lot you can do about it. Why should we, by default, believe we can change another person’s — an independent, thinking self just like us — behaviors and thoughts with just a few choice words? If you think about it for a minute, it sounds kind of ridiculous.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532738008-IT3LOL2U1L6QU2BQJ9S0/tomi-llama-gradient-3.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT “In any relationship, whether friends or family or significant others, there are going to be these behaviors, personality traits, and problem solving techniques that we’re going to see as flawed. They may even be things that are critical for us to feel happy or satisfied. But our tendency to tell – maybe even fight – with our loved ones in order to get them to change these things belies a truth that many people forget in the heat of the moment: that we do not have the power to change other people. We only have the power to change ourselves. As sad, stressful, or challenging as it may be at times, we do not possess the power to make someone else different. We cannot force someone to be kinder, more affection [sic], or a better communicator. We cannot make them be cleaner, or more organized, or more thoughtful. That doesn’t mean we cannot express our concerns, of course. We can – and should – tell the other person about our feelings and what we could enjoy seeing from them. Communication is an important part of any relationship, and that includes sharing our feelings and experiences. But we also need to accept that the choice and ability to make those changes is solely on the other person…” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/cd894835-65df-420c-b1a3-0c71cbf8a9ee/tomi-llama-gradient-4.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT “My goal in completing this worksheet is to create a happy, healthy love relationship that reflects an on-going respectful conversation with self and other that delights the heart, continually invites our best selves to emerge, and withstands the test of time.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/98ff87b3-2345-4058-8763-6cfaa510cbed/surgeons.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/6380c294-8de2-4a14-be5d-b9827794598b/man+managing+stocks+and+banking.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/bd0f213f-2ba3-406b-8e53-04a0fb7570c3/packing+for+vacation+landscape.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532738008-IT3LOL2U1L6QU2BQJ9S0/tomi-llama-gradient-3.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT “Unlike people who merely work long hours, workaholics struggle to psychologically detach from work. And we know that ongoing rumination often goes together with stress, anxiety, depression, and sleep problems, and it impedes recovery from work. Stress levels in workaholics are therefore often chronic, which leads to ongoing wear and tear on the body.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/47e83440-b3de-47db-800e-72ea6f1a0a29/couple+serious+discussion.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/48ef5272-9f31-4eaf-8061-80606d9b10f1/mountain+path.jpg Step Six: YOUR LOVE FIT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.tomillama.com/step-four daily 0.75 2022-05-04 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914611375-V5XRZS814L8KAXRD6FKD/image-asset.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582710120-8KVKOTMXDJRQRG8XGBJY/llama+wagging+tail.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582795504-0VFHJEW47IZ3S9DK3NM0/llama+winking.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778441-KM0XW9AN90BB7SDACUCB/blog-section-12.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648584737786-Q81XJA6S72LM77LXPDSW/tomi+circle.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1651158787607-SZOT0GPRR5U4UJT7HL8W/Screen+Shot+2022-04-28+at+11.12.57+AM.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1651158787607-SZOT0GPRR5U4UJT7HL8W/Screen+Shot+2022-04-28+at+11.12.57+AM.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1651158787607-SZOT0GPRR5U4UJT7HL8W/Screen+Shot+2022-04-28+at+11.12.57+AM.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1651158787607-SZOT0GPRR5U4UJT7HL8W/Screen+Shot+2022-04-28+at+11.12.57+AM.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1651158787607-SZOT0GPRR5U4UJT7HL8W/Screen+Shot+2022-04-28+at+11.12.57+AM.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1651158787607-SZOT0GPRR5U4UJT7HL8W/Screen+Shot+2022-04-28+at+11.12.57+AM.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1651158787607-SZOT0GPRR5U4UJT7HL8W/Screen+Shot+2022-04-28+at+11.12.57+AM.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/421ab009-d191-44d5-864d-09f7ed55c27c/EMOJI+IDEA.png Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/da28e554-508c-4098-904a-01f5b94bc159/cars+on+a+fast+road.jpg Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/439a8788-2f17-49c5-a262-515884ed3cae/woman+sitting+at+window+looking+at+moutains.jpg Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/76ffcb09-2253-489c-82ca-5dc60749c60b/step+four+birthday.jpg Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 - Make it stand out I wanted to attend my aunt’s birthday party because family is important to me. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/53f9f683-3d90-4267-8b84-2cf1e9830896/step+four+tennis.jpg Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 - Make it stand out I wanted to take Warren to the tennis tournament because family is important to me. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/6b23e16e-728b-43a3-8ef5-681a7c38efa7/step+four+book.jpg Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 - Make it stand out I also wanted to rest on the couch and read because freedom and wisdom are important to me. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/6cc2e171-6ddb-4794-93c0-75a6070fd2e4/tomi+llama+step+4+tennis+practice+baby+powder.jpg Step Four: YOUR 10-10-10 - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.tomillama.com/step-five daily 0.75 2022-05-04 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914611375-V5XRZS814L8KAXRD6FKD/image-asset.png Step Five: YOUR TALENT DNA https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582795504-0VFHJEW47IZ3S9DK3NM0/llama+winking.png Step Five: YOUR TALENT DNA https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778441-KM0XW9AN90BB7SDACUCB/blog-section-12.png Step Five: YOUR TALENT DNA https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648584737786-Q81XJA6S72LM77LXPDSW/tomi+circle.png Step Five: YOUR TALENT DNA https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1651074400261-E4FWG8OFDOU5KRESFWZY/whats%2Byour%2Bsuperpower%2Bautolayout%2Bimage.jpg Step Five: YOUR TALENT DNA https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Five: YOUR TALENT DNA https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Five: YOUR TALENT DNA https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778611-827STBW679L31GWEAY7T/creampeach.png Step Five: YOUR TALENT DNA https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532738008-IT3LOL2U1L6QU2BQJ9S0/tomi-llama-gradient-3.jpg Step Five: YOUR TALENT DNA “While there are many good levers for engaging people and driving performance—levers such as selecting talent, setting clear expectations, praising where praise is due, and defining the team’s mission—the master lever is getting each person to play to his strengths. Pull this lever, and an engaged and productive team will be the result. Fail to pull it, and no matter what else is done to motivate the team, it’ll never fully engage. It will never become a high-performance team.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/24d7e820-637b-48e7-995a-9bf1a81431d0/venn+diagram+tomi+llama.png Step Five: YOUR TALENT DNA - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.tomillama.com/step-seven daily 0.75 2025-05-22 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914611375-V5XRZS814L8KAXRD6FKD/image-asset.png Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582710120-8KVKOTMXDJRQRG8XGBJY/llama+wagging+tail.png Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778441-KM0XW9AN90BB7SDACUCB/blog-section-12.png Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648584737786-Q81XJA6S72LM77LXPDSW/tomi+circle.png Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914615533-EYXA07NNNQTN4SXT2LRX/image-asset.png Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694644871-IC85FNH781UNZSZEGHDR/Aro+Ha_0428.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912912692-XJMHJLKNS36Y5RY4P12A/step+2+card+1.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912926533-40AVSX1O1WOBOS785K03/step+2+card+2.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912945841-JE64Q2K497RTOZ11T6TF/step+2+card+3.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912973685-DZ58H14Z66LW6963I542/step+2+card+4.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694644871-IC85FNH781UNZSZEGHDR/Aro+Ha_0428.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1589847767761-J2M1HI20BXRQ9XCR0HUD/Large+JPG-Aro+Ha_0387.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582795504-0VFHJEW47IZ3S9DK3NM0/llama+winking.png Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914612288-E66Y8LKX7KC0LZGAK365/image-asset.png Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582776017-XW0XDHBSJF3FQLMNDOAV/llama+hearts+eyes.png Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1651074400261-E4FWG8OFDOU5KRESFWZY/whats%2Byour%2Bsuperpower%2Bautolayout%2Bimage.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778611-827STBW679L31GWEAY7T/creampeach.png Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648607191309-5L76JB9H046GVBGYED2L/catalyst.png Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/cd894835-65df-420c-b1a3-0c71cbf8a9ee/tomi-llama-gradient-4.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT “Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking, and don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/cd894835-65df-420c-b1a3-0c71cbf8a9ee/tomi-llama-gradient-4.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT “My goal in completing this worksheet is to find a job that makes me happy because it plays to my strengths, with a boss who has a high EQ, in an organization that aligns with my values.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/4211231c-e89a-4b2d-8c23-e8a1025d00cf/charles-deluvio-rRWiVQzLm7k-unsplash.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/fe73e65c-d7a3-4f33-995c-d558ad5cbf72/office+white+with+laptops+and+people+around+table+and+colorful+post+its+on+wall.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/ae141794-d1e6-40de-82dd-0338d671cd96/team+meeting.jpg Step Seven: YOUR JOB FIT - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.tomillama.com/step-ten daily 0.75 2023-06-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914611375-V5XRZS814L8KAXRD6FKD/image-asset.png Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778441-KM0XW9AN90BB7SDACUCB/blog-section-12.png Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648584737786-Q81XJA6S72LM77LXPDSW/tomi+circle.png Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914612288-E66Y8LKX7KC0LZGAK365/image-asset.png Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582795504-0VFHJEW47IZ3S9DK3NM0/llama+winking.png Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650392874607-LP6650JKO74RB2TJ77KU/tomi+llama+circle+llama+and+flip+cards.png Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694644871-IC85FNH781UNZSZEGHDR/Aro+Ha_0428.jpg Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/019b0f33-a04a-43d9-b143-c9525e0915ed/tomi+llama+full+illustration.png Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/4396a190-d1db-47d5-b3c6-cc3370d59c59/through+a+keyhole.jpg Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/cd894835-65df-420c-b1a3-0c71cbf8a9ee/tomi-llama-gradient-4.jpg Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH “Your family belief system influences how you look at and interact with the world. We don’t always tailor our actions to the actual demands of a situation. Instead, we fall back on old ways of responding that are emotionally laden and sometimes horrendously counterproductive. Adopting behavior we first encountered in our families, we do the same thing over and over again - even if it kills us. We remain imprisoned by our pasts.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/50240bf9-9ca4-42f3-b344-de0ed77b56ec/empty+classroom.jpg Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1d9d94b1-f82c-4852-8e3f-7a6411f316d0/airplane+in+golden+light+larger.jpg Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532762047-QMQ9UP1FWQAOMHMY4QKS/Limiting+Beliefs+List+Infographic+with+101+examples+of+beliefs+by+Tomi+Llama Step Ten: YOUR CLEAR PATH - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.tomillama.com/step-eight daily 0.75 2022-05-04 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914611375-V5XRZS814L8KAXRD6FKD/image-asset.png Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582710120-8KVKOTMXDJRQRG8XGBJY/llama+wagging+tail.png Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582795504-0VFHJEW47IZ3S9DK3NM0/llama+winking.png Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778441-KM0XW9AN90BB7SDACUCB/blog-section-12.png Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648584737786-Q81XJA6S72LM77LXPDSW/tomi+circle.png Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648606890061-O6LTMRKJ60NXNIMHBDOJ/what+makes+you+angry.png Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532738008-IT3LOL2U1L6QU2BQJ9S0/tomi-llama-gradient-3.jpg Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE “an expression of the deepest dimension within us—of our central core or essence, when we have a profound sense of who we are, where we came from, and where we’re going. Purpose, when it is clear, is the aim around which we structure our lives, a source of direction and energy, and the way the meaning of our lives is worked out in daily experience. You have a purpose no matter what age you are, how healthy you are, or what your economic or social situation is.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/0c4cc541-023b-4f78-bfbd-b4c13d270d37/tomi-llama-gradient-1.jpg Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE “No matter what side of the tracks you were born on, what kind of childhood you had, what current challenges you’re slogging through, or what race, color, orientation, creed, or age you are, when you create the right inner conditions, the great purpose for which you were born must emerge.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/cd894835-65df-420c-b1a3-0c71cbf8a9ee/tomi-llama-gradient-4.jpg Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE “This association between a low level of purpose in life and death remained true despite how rich or poor participants were, and regardless of gender, race, or education level. The researchers also found the association to be so powerful that having a life purpose appeared to be more important for decreasing risk of death than drinking, smoking or exercising regularly.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/49c4e9aa-6300-44b5-965c-0bbf838bf1a6/step+8+figure+5.jpg Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/08294130-832e-4d95-b5d1-adfb4e10e727/woman+writing+with+white+pen Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/e04e484a-2a86-4340-8ecb-ba7899311d84/man+sitting+at+lake+thinking+with+computer.jpg Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/cd894835-65df-420c-b1a3-0c71cbf8a9ee/tomi-llama-gradient-4.jpg Step Eight: YOUR MAGICAL PURPOSE “I am always tuning my orchestra. Somewhere deep inside there is a sound that is mine alone, and I struggle daily to hear it and tune my life to it. Sometimes there are people and situations that help me to hear my note more clearly; other times people and situations make it harder for me to hear. A lot depends on my commitment to listening and my intention to stay coherent with this note. It is only when my life is tuned to my note that I can play life’s mysterious and holy music without tainting it with my own bitterness, resentment, agendas, and fears.” https://www.tomillama.com/step-nine daily 0.75 2022-05-04 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914611375-V5XRZS814L8KAXRD6FKD/image-asset.png Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648582795504-0VFHJEW47IZ3S9DK3NM0/llama+winking.png Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778441-KM0XW9AN90BB7SDACUCB/blog-section-12.png Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648584737786-Q81XJA6S72LM77LXPDSW/tomi+circle.png Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912912692-XJMHJLKNS36Y5RY4P12A/step+2+card+1.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912926533-40AVSX1O1WOBOS785K03/step+2+card+2.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912945841-JE64Q2K497RTOZ11T6TF/step+2+card+3.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650912973685-DZ58H14Z66LW6963I542/step+2+card+4.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914609399-0GZ63DEUVL5AYRG5TQ8J/image-asset.jpeg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1618497259178-6XJGK9GR6YAVBQL5L519/20140301_Trade-151_012-2.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694583486-2PQT0LQ193RL7MCB6DX4/20140228_Trade+151_0046.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec321c2af33de48734cc929/1607694644871-IC85FNH781UNZSZEGHDR/Aro+Ha_0428.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1650914612288-E66Y8LKX7KC0LZGAK365/image-asset.png Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1651265552334-E5R7W8BV12XEZ5AJBD91/llama%2Bwagging%2Btail.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1648606782381-S7JTW2X9LO4L74CVQ96W/ask+others+what+they+think.png Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/76708ff0-1ea6-4136-94b2-5f5d84eb22d5/sunbeam+on+ladybug.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532738008-IT3LOL2U1L6QU2BQJ9S0/tomi-llama-gradient-3.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING “passion is simply the work you love to do. You’re deeply committed to doing this work and doing it well. You’ll get a lot of joy out of it, but it will also come with a lot of struggle and effort—and you’ll know the whole time that it’s worth it.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/cd894835-65df-420c-b1a3-0c71cbf8a9ee/tomi-llama-gradient-4.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING “Going small” is ignoring all the things you could do and doing what you should do. It’s recognizing that not all things matter equally and finding the things that matter most. It’s a tighter way to connect what you want to do with what you want. It’s realizing that extraordinary results are directly determined by how narrow you can make your focus.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532738008-IT3LOL2U1L6QU2BQJ9S0/tomi-llama-gradient-3.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING “You only have so much time and energy, so when you spread yourself out, you end up spread thin. You want your achievements to add up, but that actually takes subtraction, not addition. You need to be doing fewer things for more effect instead of doing more things with side effects.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532738008-IT3LOL2U1L6QU2BQJ9S0/tomi-llama-gradient-3.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING “At the heart of every difficult decision lie three tough choices: What to pursue versus what to ignore. What to leave in versus what to leave out. What to do versus what to don’t. I have discovered that if you focus on the second half of each choice—what to ignore, what to leave out, what to don’t—the decision becomes exponentially easier and simpler. The key is to remove the stupid stuff: anything obviously excessive, confusing, wasteful, unnatural, hazardous, hard to use, or ugly... This is the art of subtraction: when you remove just the right thing, in just the right way, something good usually happens.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/adaffd21-74fd-4883-9549-122a555f316e/calendar+and+computer.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778611-827STBW679L31GWEAY7T/creampeach.png Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING If what I am about to say yes to is not built on the balanced exchange or it can’t transition there, then it’s a no for me. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778611-827STBW679L31GWEAY7T/creampeach.png Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING If what I am about to say yes to is not an amazing human experience or it doesn’t have the potential to be that, then it’s a no for me. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/1642532778611-827STBW679L31GWEAY7T/creampeach.png Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING If what I am about to say yes to is not going to allow me to grow with effortless joy or it doesn’t have the potential to do that, then it’s a no for me. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/e42161a3-9a2b-4e3e-8f22-19dd1b52e4e9/curving+roads+through+woods.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/0d893d2f-3486-4694-859d-dbe5607e03ba/changing+a+diaper.jpg Step Nine: YOUR ONE THING - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.tomillama.com/coaching daily 0.75 2024-09-16 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/61e70f585741140f7e8fa3b1/35dd5e00-1e8f-4a90-afda-daea262bac60/tomi+llama+full+illustration.jpg Coaching - Book your one-on-one coaching call with Tomi. If you’d like additional guidance or are need clarification, a coaching call can help. https://www.tomillama.com/app daily 0.75 2024-08-27